We Find Ourselves In The Dark
If there’s anything I’ve learned in the past sixteen years of being in therapy, it’s that talk-therapy can only go so far. As incredibly beneficial as this practice is, there are some things that you can’t talk about, you just have to say “screw it” and do the damn thing.
This is where the beautiful art of boudoir comes in. This sensational entity pushes you to the forefront, and forces you to see yourself in a whole new light. Although it’s incredibly vulnerable for someone who’s never done it before, it’s a remarkable form of healing. This is where you’re able to try a different approach on your self-love journey. It’s an opportunity to allow yourself to be seen, and to see yourself.
Oftentimes people don’t realize that when we’re in these intimate spaces, whether it be alone or with someone else, very uncomfortable feelings can arise. Internal wounds, or emotions we’ve been trying to avoid can come to the surface. It might not seem like it, but this is a good thing. We’re supposed to feel, and with that gift ourselves with the ability to release.
It’s during these quiet moments that we discover how our bodies hold trauma differently than our minds do. Imagine it as something hiding from within us that can be unexpectedly triggered.
The only way to deal with this is to acknowledge it, and sit with it. Not only to dissect it and understand its origin, but to know completely how it operates and affects your overall life.
There are so many hidden traumas that I carried into my life from childhood, things that I didn’t know were there and assumed were characteristics of my personality. It’s only when we accept our wounds, is when we’re able to heal them. From there, we may grow, adapt to the fruits of empowerment, and have not only a better relationship with our bodies but with our spiritual and emotional selves. Boudoir is a beautiful way to express oneself, and document the progression of this process.
Nothing has been more beautiful than being the onlooker of this, and witnessing this change in others as boudoir has done for me since day one of falling in love with this sacred craft.
The obstacle is the way as a wise stoic once said. As Marcus Aurelius claimed,
“The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.”
The only way to overcome anything, is by getting through it. The same logic applies to the traumas that linger in the temple of our bodies. Only through sheer courage can we find endearment.
May we practice this,
Find the strength in forgiveness,
And find liberation by releasing inhibition.
More than anything, may we find ourselves in the dark and discover that it’s never too late to rise again.
This time, better than ever.